1.3 Why People Hire Wedding Planners
Couples hire a wedding planner for many reasons.The first, and most common, reason is that some people are simply too busy to coordinate a wedding themselves. This is especially true of people who are throwing a large wedding, but do not have the time to deal with the intricate details that goes into pulling off a big event. These couples will usually want a say in the decisions being made, but won’t have the time to deal with the day-to-day efforts that go into making it happen.
Some people will hire a wedding planner because they want to have a certain kind of wedding, but have no idea where to start. Many of these people will have basic ideas regarding what they want their wedding to be, but will rely on your creative vision to turn their thoughts into well-developed ideas.
Other people will hire a wedding planner so that they have someone to help them get through the day. Many couples want to be able to throw a big party and enjoy it. They do not want to place the burden of running the show on their friends and family. These couples will want everyone to be able to enjoy the party without having to worry about whether or not the caterer will show up on time.
Finally, some people will want to hire a wedding planner to make sure they stay within their budget. It may sound contradictory, but having someone else deal with the money is the safest way for some couples to ensure that they do not spend more money than they have. Many of these couples will come to you because they know you have contacts that can help keep their finances in line. They know that if they go out and look at vendors, they will walk away with someone more expensive than they can afford. But, if you present them only with those vendors in their price range, the temptation will be significantly decreased.
1.4 How Wedding Planners Make Money
One of the great things about being a wedding planner is how you make money.How you make money will depend on the kind of services you provide for the couple. There are three main types of services that a typical wedding planner will provide. These services include: consultation, a day of coordination services and the full service wedding planning package.
A consultant package will usually see you sitting down with a couple and helping them with specific ideas. You might help them with design, answer questions or help them with vendors. Most planners who do consultant work will charge by the hour because this work is easier to track. How much you charge per hour will depend on your experience and your market. For example, a wedding consultant in London will charge more than a wedding consultant in Preston.
If you offer a day package, you will be offering a service that requires you to run the whole show on the day of the wedding. Usually, you will not have a hand in the planning of the actual wedding. Instead, you will be briefed one or two weeks before the event and then be on site to make sure everything goes smoothly. Day packages are typically charged on a per day basis. Again, these costs will depend on your market, your experience and often the size of the wedding. Typically, you will charge more for a wedding of 250 people than one for 100 guests.
Finally, if you are planning the whole wedding from start to finish, you will usually charge a commission.
For example, you might charge the couple 10% of their wedding budget as commission for your services.
Alternatively, you can charge a fixed fee for wedding planning packages. However, because every wedding is so different, you might find that you are either over-charging or under-charging depending on the wedding.
Using the commission structure is the best way to ensure you are fairly compensated for the actual amount of work that you do.
1.5 The Skills Every Wedding Planner Needs
Almost every career path requires a certain set of skills that are incredibly valuable to the profession.Wedding planners require a specific set of both personal and professional skills that you need to succeed. Some of these skills may come naturally to you while others may require lots of extra training.
Interpersonal Skills
Interpersonal skills are probably the most important skills you can have as a wedding planner. Your career is people-facing and how you communicate with people will determine the success of your career, more than your creative abilities.
In wedding planning specifically, you will need to have a lot of patience and understanding. The nature of a wedding is emotional and there is so much that goes into planning a wedding that you might not see, but that the happy couple will have to deal with. In these cases, empathy is one of the most important tools you can have.
Your interpersonal skills will also come into play when dealing with vendors, photographers and even wedding guests on the day.
Creative Solutions
Chances are, if you are considering a career in wedding planning, you are already the creative type. But creativity is more than just about creating a cohesive colour scheme. You need to be able to come up with creative solutions. For example, if the power source is too far away from the wedding DJ booth, it will be up to you to fix the problem.
Time Management Skills
You cannot put off a wedding. Once the date is set, the invitations are out and RSVPs are coming in, you have a very strict timeline in which to get everything done. This is not a profession where you can finish your work a day late or ask for an extension. Your time management skills need to be up to scratch if you want a career as a wedding planner.
1.6 Is Being a Wedding Planner Glamorous?
Plenty of people will have seen films like ‘The Wedding Planner’ and dreamed of one day running down the streets of New York in a new pair of Jimmy Choos.These dreams let people believe that wedding planning is a glamorous career in which they get to dress up and look at flowers every day.
While there are glamorous and fun elements, at times you’re going to find yourself feeling stressed. You’re also likely to find yourself doing tasks you’d never imagine doing. Some wedding planners have even reported having to spray paint bushes green so that they’re vibrant enough for photos. Other times, you will have been caught in a freak storm and be desperately trying to save those expensive rental tents from blowing away in the wind.
As with any career, wedding planning comes with its trials and tribulations. You’ll love spending time with the happy couple on the day and the glitzier elements of planning parties. But then there are logistics, arranging things like cutlery and portaloos, and taking calls from stressed couples in the middle of the night just as the wedding is around the corner.
Ultimately, the fun balances out the stress, but you have to be prepared to take everything the wedding planning world is going to throw at you.
1.7 Dealing with the Bridezilla
No introduction to wedding planning is complete without mentioning the scourge of the wedding planning industry: the Bridezilla.Before now, you might have thought that this is a Hollywood construct that exists only to make movies more interesting.
Dealing with vendors, laws and other venues is all business. But dealing with a difficult couple? This is the hardest part of being a wedding planner. But it is also where you can learn to shine.
Don’t take it personally
The first thing that you have to remember in dealing with a bridezilla type is not to take it personally. There are often only two types of bridezillas. There are the brides who are using their wedding as an excuse to sponge up as much attention as possible, and there are the brides who are on such a strict budget that they are going crazy.
The whole thing is a crazy, emotional, trying time for the bride and your empathy and care can make it easier. Plus, feuding with the bride is the worst way to win clients.
Be diplomatic
The second thing that you will need to learn is diplomacy. Learning how to choose your battles is important. In some cases, you know you will need to stand your ground for the greater good of the wedding. But you need to be able to identify the cases where you should just let her do as she pleases because at the end of the day, it is her day.
Listening is also an important skill to have as a wedding planner. In many cases, a bride may be upset about something that has little to do with the actual reason that she is upset. Although you are not there to be her therapist, if you can use your active listening skills to get to the bottom of what she is really upset about, you can then move on to solve the problem.
Do not ever go behind the couple’s back. Even if you think that what you’re doing is for the best, going behind the back of the bride or the couple is always the wrong thing to do.
Not only is it rude, but the couple will find out and it will be embarrassing for them. It is the fastest way to get fired. Instead of circumnavigating the couple to get things done, work on your negotiation skills and do the best you can face to face.
Finally, it is important to know when to pull the plug. If a couple has you running at a loss, doesn’t pay their bills and is just short of verbally abusing you, you should fire them. There will be cases where nothing you do will make the couple happy. If it is early enough in the wedding process, tell them that you are not a good fit for their wedding, hand over what they have paid for and then bow out. Learning when to quit is the best way to make sure that you have a long career ahead in wedding planning.
Module Summary
Being a wedding planner is a lot of hard work. You need a whole combination of creative skills, business skills and interpersonal skills to succeed in this field. But even though there’s a lot to do, making a couple’s day extra special is one of the best rewards you can get![Tweet “I just completed Module 1 of the Wedding Planning Course”]